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masturbation poll update

As of right now.. my masturbation poll got sixteen votes.. which in the span of several days has had almost two hundred hits… so not so great.  BUT out of the votes I did get I figured I’d do a little post to talk about the response.

I got one “other” vote, which I have no idea what that means.  My only thought is that other could mean… the person doesn’t masturbate at all?  That’s the only thing that makes sense to me.  If you’re the one that voted that way… please, I’d love to hear what it meant.

The bulk of the votes fell into the sometimes category (62.6%).  I would fall into that category.  I figured that most people would also vote this way.  It was cool to see my suspicions confirmed.  I would think generally that a great deal of people fantasize about their partner at least some of the time which is why it always seemed so odd to me about Ben.  I guess we are who we are, right?

The other two categories left are never and always… both extremes.  I got two votes for never.. and asked Ben if he had voted… he said no.  I knew there would be some votes for that since I myself, know two people in my little world that feel that way.  I don’t think I’ll ever understand it.  I guess we can’t control what turns us on when we get off… we are wired the way we are… and there isn’t much to be done about that.

The other extreme, always.. used to be me.  Up until about eight months ago I always had been in my fantasies.  It all came down to how much I loved (and still do) having sex with him.  He is the best sexual partner I’ve ever had.. and that still stand to this day.  I’m sure a lot of it has to do with the emotion and connection we share.

So to all of you who voted, thanks a lot.  It was fun to see what responses came in and have my own theories backed up.  So with that.. I wish you happy masturbating! 🙂


This is a long overdue review!  Things have been pretty busy around here as of late and getting a chance to sit down to share about this month’s toy has been hard.  I made myself make time for it today 🙂

This month my toy came… and when it arrived, as always, I immediately opened it.  Inside laid my new Wartenburg Wheel.  I pulled it out and the accompanied blindfold.  If I have to describe this toy… I’d say it’s a good beginners item.  It isn’t on the high end of Wartenburg Wheels (nicer ones are stainless steel and have pokier wheels).  I hadn’t ever experienced one before… and I’m always down for trying new things.  The blindfold is kind of flimsy.. butttt the good part of it is that the thin material makes for complete coverage over your eyes.  I liked how it conformed to the contours of my face. 

The actual experience of the toy was fun.  It wasn’t the intense play that Ben and I usually engage in.   I think it was nice to actually experience something a little different.. a little more sensual.  Sensation play isn’t typical for us.  We’ve probably done it only a handful of times in the years we’ve been together.

Ben set the tone by lighting candles… that I wouldn’t be seeing long.  He covered my face with the blindfold and had me lay on my stomach to start.  He started by running his fingers over my skin then would randomly add in the wheel.  What a difference in sensations!  Going from the softness of skin to the cold, pokeyness of the wheel startled me the first time.

After a bit he had me flip over and teased the front side of my body.  When he used the wheel on the more sensitive parts of my body.. I was fully aware of it.  By the time he was ready to move onto other things… I was more than eager.  Every inch of my body was on high alert from the sensory deprivation mixed with the Ben’s teasing.

So my over all experience… it was fun.  I liked changing things up… I think variety is the spice of life.  I love trying new types of bondage toys.. as we are big fans of S&M play.. even if this was on the lower end of the spectrum.  If you ever get the chance to try one out… definitely try it out.  I was amazed at the heightened senses I experienced… yes.. it was fun.

If you’re in the market for any new sex toys, be sure to swing by Eden Fantasys… they have a wide variety of toys to browse through.  You never know what will peak your curiosity!

30 Days of Kink-Day 15

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

Most of the things I’ve been interested in.. we’ve tried.  There are a few exceptions to that… but I’m only going to talk about one of those here.  I think it would be interesting/fun to try kitty or puppy play.  It would be cool to be down to an animal mentality of just following direction and just being.

Plus.. I think having a tail butt plug would be really awesome.  🙂

I don’t really have a reasoning behind why it think it’s intriguing… but I do.  Maybe there is something a little degrading about being put on that level.  Like being told to hump his leg like a little bitch… yeah.. that’s kind of hot.  Oh and the collar… one that would be just for this specific play.  Sort of one of those things that gets me into the mindset of what we are doing.

This isn’t really a concrete thing… more of an abstract idea in my mind.  It finds it’s way into my thoughts from time to time.  I’ve written Ben erotica based off this… going to a pet store and buying the collar.  Yeah.. I was slightly wet after I was done writing it.  Fantasies are good. 🙂

Review 2: Amethyst

I got my May toy in the mail almost two weeks ago and have been trying to get a chance to try it out but the opportunity had not came to me.  Seems like everything was getting in the way these couple weeks.  Luckily, a chance presented itself and we went for it.

When my new blue glass toy arrived, it was wrapped inside a red velvet cozy.  I don’t know why, but I love when toys have their own little carrier.  I instantly was thrilled about it… as I love blue.. and what a lovely shade it is.  It’s appropriately named Amethyst. 

This particular toy gloats that it is a g-spot dildo… but we had other plans for it.  I am sure at some point we will try it as such but we decided to be adventurous and use it in a way that we both enjoy.  And so while Ben was entertaining my pussy… he had me warm the toy with my hands before applying a little lube.  He had given me the impression that he was going to be the one operating it, but decided at the last minute that watching me fuck my ass with this little blue wonder would suit him much better.

And so while he was deep inside of me…. I slid the toy into my ass… and started matching his movements.  It was still slightly cool to touch but not a jarring cold that the glass is normally…. just a perfect sensation.  It wasn’t long before I was begging to cum.  I so love cumming with both my holes filled.  Makes me squirm thinking about it.  To say I enjoyed this toy, is an understatement.  If it works half as good on my g-spot as it did in my ass… I’ve met a new friend.  🙂  I’ll be sure to follow up on that one.

Two big thumbs up for this one!  You can find a variety sex toys to fit any of your needs at Eden Fantasys.  Be sure to check them out!

30 Days of Kink- Day 12

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

When we got the njoy plug almost two years ago… we played with it quite a bit.  At the time, there was no everyday wear rule.  It was more for play time than anything.  There was one night we were playing… and Ben was fucking my ass with it.  I was lost in the waves of pleasure it brought, oblivious to what was about to happen.

He pulled on it till it almost popped out then pushed it back in… when my ass ate it.  The muscle was working overtime… and got overzealous…. and sucked it into the anal cavity.  I stopped immediately.. just as he did.  Sheer terror washed over me.  I could envision going to the hospital with this stainless steel toy in my ass and having to bend over so a doctor (probably male) fish it out of me.  I was scared.. to say the least.

I remember what I said.. but I remember panicking… and Ben telling me to calm down.  I frantically told him to get it out after that.  He once again told me to calm down in a more stern way.  I took a deep breath and laid still.  He slid his fingers inside of my ass… and tried several times to get a good hold on it.  The lube that makes anal so much easier was in fact working against us in this endeavor.

He wasn’t giving up, though.  He kept at it, finally retrieving it from inside of me much to my relief.  We, of course, laughed hard about it once everything was okay again.  We picked up where we left off… minus one toy in the mix.  All I know is… I am so glad he got it out.  I don’t ever want to explain that to a doctor!

29 candles… 261 swats

Yesterday was the last birthday I’ll have that has a twenty tacked in front of it.  It’s kind of weird to think about really… but time presses on, no?  You make the best of what time you have and enjoy the moments life offers.  Normally birthdays are something I build up in my head… and end up being disappointed because they aren’t as big of a deal as I think they are.  Before me, Ben had never had someone that birthdays were a big deal to and so he had a bit of a learning curve to get it right.  The last few birthdays have been good for sure.  Yesterday was no exception.

Both the kids wished me happy birthday when they left for school and I was left to sleep in.  Ben woke me up a little after nine with breakfast in bed accompanied with my present and two cards (one funny and one mushy).  We ate in bed together letting the natural light pour in.  After we finished I opened my cards and present (a new iPod dock because my old one died a few months back).  We cuddled back into the sheets afterwards.

It wasn’t long before Ben’s hands were wandering.  It was a rare moment where he was totally focused on me… and making me feel good.  My cunt was totally drenched… as his fingers slide inside of me.  He said as an added birthday present… for the whole day I could cum whenever I wanted.  It was kind of surreal.  One of those moments you look forward to, but aren’t really sure what to do with.  I was in the heat of the moment, though, and didn’t really miss a beat.  I reached down and rubbed my clit to an amazing orgasm.

From there we showered and got ready for our day.  We headed down to Portland for a day of shopping and being together.  We meandered around where I got some new clothes.. and Ben found a few beers he wanted to try.  After we headed to the Japanese Garden.  We walked around.. soaking up the nice weather… and the quiet of the beautiful place.  After we left we went to dinner  then headed back home.

Later in the night was birthday spanking time… a time honored tradition that we simply cannot ignore.  Ben had decided I was to get twenty-nine swats with nine different implements he picked out.  He was nice enough to let me pick out the order in which they’d be used.  I sat on the bed looking over the mixture of toys trying to decide what would be the best way to sort them… all the bad ones first…. all the easy ones first…. or mixing up the good and the bad.  In the end, I decided to to mix it up leaving easy ones at the beginning and the end.

So I bent over the bed and prepared myself for the oncoming ass warming.  I was to count each swat, something new to us.  He started… five swats on each cheek with a plastic ping pong paddle.  I thought this was going to be one of the easier implements as in the past it has been… boy was I wrong.  By the end of the grouping of spankings.. I was panting heavily.

Next came the stainless steel cake spreader.  This has always been one of our more brutal implements as it easily draws blood.  Each swat cut right through me… and I reached out for his hand.    He kept going though.. delivering the second set of blows.  He set the spatula down and rubbed my back.  He comforted me… knowing the pain that he’d brought me… helping soothe my breathing.  After a few minutes, he asked if I was ready for the next grouping.

He picked up a slotted spatula next… it was the easiest to take so far even though we were only a third of a way into my birthday spankings.  I counted out each swat as he delivered them.  This set went the fastest for sure.  Again he asked if I was ready for the next… and I was.. waiting bent over the bed… ass out… asking it’s Owner to brighten my skin.

Ben grabbed the next toy in line… my second most hated toy, a pancake spatula.  This thing is evil… it delivers a blow with a bite and a thud.. a strange little mixture.  I was not looking forward to this one… and braced myself for the worst.  Within first four I was wiggling and had to be reminded to stay in position.. it was so hard.  The pain was unbearable…. I could hardly process it.  I kept telling myself over and over that it was only twenty-nine blows and that I could get through them.  It just didn’t feel like that.  Strangely enough, I made it through with an additional hit. When I called him on it… he said he’d take one off next year… and then he comforted me once more before moving onto the next set.

The flogger came out next… delivering twenty-nine well picked hits.  I wiggled through them… counting each one so he could hear them.  Then came the cane… my ass was sore but I knew I was getting close to the end.  His hand had to hold me in place again… I was struggling to deal with it all.  Just a few more implements I told myself.. just a few more.  The wooden spatula came next… also one of the rough toys.  I lost count through this one… being reminded what number we should be on.

He pressed on… two more to go.  He grabbed the crop… the stings landing on each cheek.  So close to being done.. the pain becoming almost impossible to handle.  When he announced that there was only one more to go… I felt all too relieved.  He picked up the last one… another type of spatula.  My ass was sore… but it was a welcome toy… one that didn’t hurt nearly as bad.  I counted out the last grouping… and was greated by a wonderful Owner… holding me close.  He climbed onto the bed and pulled me into him… telling me happy birthday and kissing me.

It was a wonderful birthday to say the least.  If I have to grow older… that’s how I want to spend them.  Spanked and loved.

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Back when I first started dabbling with pain.. I became a big fan of floggers.  I loved how they felt hitting my back… the way they reddened my skin… the rhythm of the swings.  To say it’s intoxicating is an understating.  I being the person I am sexually.. wanted more.. to try new things.  And so we looked for new things to bring into our collection.

From there Ben decided he wanted to try something edgier… and thus the birth of the wire hanger.  The sting of it was incredible and very hard to take.  I had a love/hate relationship with it.  I loved the marks… but I struggled so much with the sharpness of the hits.  I loved how deep into subspace it would take me.. but hated how out of control I felt… how scared it would make me.  Funny how I still felt safe.. because he would wield it.  It has become something only used for punishments now.  It makes for a perfect implement for correction.

We decided to look for something more… I bought him a cane next.  I had always been afraid of it.. the terrible bite I had heard of scared me beyond belief.  I figured it couldn’t be worse than the hanger… and was ready to conquer my fears.  I was excited and nervous.  It would only take one session before I fell completely in love with it.  It was suddenly my favorite implement… and was the one I wanted him to use every time.  Who knew?   In all the new toys we’ve added to our collection… nothing has taken it’s place.

As far as other toys.. I had a favorite vibrator for a long time.  It was a yellow Doc Johnson… and I called it Sunshine.. cause it always made me smile.  It was one of the most perfect vibes I’ve ever encountered and aided in many orgasms before it met its untimely demise.  I wish now I had stocked up.  The only one that has come close was an anal vibe we bought last year.  It’s intense…. and I’m quite fond of it.  Then, of course, there is my njoy.  It is hands down the best butt plug out there.

So there you have it.. a run down of my favorite toys in our collection.  I’m sure it will continue to grow over the years. 🙂

Now maybe Ben will use one of our toys to give me birthday spankings today!  If that’s the case… I have 29 plus one to grow on coming!

A couple of weeks ago I was emailed by Eden Fantasys to review adult toys for them.  I was surprised to say the least.. and really excited.  I’d never done anything like this and really looked forward to such a fun opportunity.  I had to pick a few different kinds of toys that we like to use.  I like all sorts of things… especially things that are unique.  The list included vibrators, kink toys, anal toys,  and so on.  I like to keep my options open as one can never know what they like if they don’t try it, right?

After several emails were exchanged and I selected a few favorites from a list sent my way.. I awaited my first toy to arrive in the mail. When Friday came around… I found a box on our front porch when I got home from work.  I opened up the box and pulled out my first toy to review… Jenna’s Velvet G.  One of the things that drew me to this toy out of the twenty some odd choices I had was it’s unique shape.  It was so different from anything I’d see before that I figured it was worth a shot.

After I looked at it for a few… I started to wonder just how it was actually going to fit into me… but hey, life’s an adventure.  We would cross that bridge when the time came.  It stayed on the dresser till Ben got home.  He was the one that opened the box and tossed some batteries in it.  He turned it on.. and it buzzed to life.  I touched it finding that not only did the bullet on the tip vibrates but the length as well.  I hadn’t anticipated that and so it would be interesting to see how that played out.

We showered and played a little before it was time to give it a go. When he slid the toy in me… he put it in at an angle and so it felt a bit uncomfortable.  I took over so that I could get it in without hurting me.  The head of this toy is very awkward.  Even me putting it in was still a little uncomfortable but I managed.  The thing about the vibration not just being in the head of the toy is that it’s hard to really distinguish any specific places it’s working.  Once it was in I couldn’t really tell the difference between the vibrations. It was hard to tell if it was pressing on my G spot or not to be honest.

Still… it brought me to a lovely orgasm… and so I’d say it worked in that aspect.  Afterward we decided to give it one more chance before deciding how we felt about this toy.  Sometimes first times, like sex, aren’t always the best.

My second go round was Monday morning.  After Ben and I had some lovely morning sex… I asked if I could cum once more and mentioned the toy.  I fetched it and climbed back in bed.  This time I guided the toy inside with ease.  I was quit pleased that it wasn’t uncomfortable like before.  I had made sure the angle of the toy was just right so that it’d hit my g spot.  I positioned it just so that I could feel it deep inside.  It was different than last time… it wasn’t the overwhelming elation that I thought it would be.. but it was a warm tingly feeling.  I road the line as Ben played with me.  Before long I felt a yummy orgasm wash over me.  This time.. was certainly better than my first.

I would say my over all opinion of this toy is good.  There are a few draw back to it in my eyes but it still does the trick.  So I can’t complain. 🙂